Have you ever been on cloud nine, only for your good mood to evaporate after a brief interaction with someone else? It's remarkable how the negative energy of others can impact us, often derailing an otherwise great day. Understanding this phenomenon and learning how to manage it can help you maintain your positivity, even when those around you are struggling.
Emotions are contagious. When someone close to us is having a bad day, their negativity can unintentionally spill over, affecting our own emotional state. This is especially true when the person directing negative energy at us is someone we care about deeply, like a family member or close friend.
For instance, imagine having one of the best days you've had in a long time. You decide to share your joy by calling your mother, expecting a warm and loving conversation. Instead, she responds coldly, snaps at you, and mentions she's in bed. The abrupt negativity catches you off guard, leaving you feeling hurt and deflated. Attempts to reach out to other family members, like your aunt, go unanswered. What started as a wonderful day now feels ruined, replaced by feelings of resentment and the urge to lash out.
We often subconsciously mimic the emotions of those we interact with. Negative emotions can be more potent and infectious than positive ones.
We expect certain people, like family members, to be supportive. When they aren't, it can feel like a personal affront.
Without emotional boundaries, it's easy to absorb others' negative feelings as our own.
Recognize that their negativity is likely about their own struggles, not a reflection of you.
Consider that they might be dealing with issues you're unaware of. A simple, "I'm sorry you're feeling this way," can go a long way.